Coaching, what a fascinating industry.
Transformation unleashes uncertainty as much as clarity. The spaces in the body, the spaces in the mind…that get unleashed and opened and explored…are as wild, free, new, and unmapped as those in the psychedelic experience (in fact, they are often the very same spaces).
Which leads to the issue. In these spaces of uncertainty where who you are in your very being gets unveiled and generated in a conversation, the function of the coach is vital. A sort of Beatrice to the unconscious or subconscious or superconscious, depending on who is speaking.
Each coach has, like Steve Jobs, either a Reality Distortion Field…or a Reality Articulation Field. The most effective model wins. Whether it is the Identity, the Shadow, the True Will, Orgasm, Shen…there are many different maps and overlays for the raw experiences seized upon by the individual in self-discovery.
And it behooves one entering this space, where another (the coach) gets to tell you who you are/what’s “Really” going on…to have a balance between self-assuredness on the one hand (knowing and carving out one’s limits, boundaries, uniqueness, and desires in the face of strong, expertise-equipped personalities)…and also a willingness to learn, which is the very reason you would approach a coach or mentor…because they have a way of being with reality or people…or a way of being in action on that reality (aka a skillset or a distinction set) which makes them have more of what you want than you currently do. Neil Strauss makes a good attempt to articulate the potential pitfalls in the self-healing process in his appendices to The Truth, for example.
In other words, put simply, to quote the Oracle from The Matrix Revolutions: “Make up your own damn mind.”